It takes two to Tango. I heard about this a lot. Sometimes, the truth it carries scares me.
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I knowww I should’ve updated about my birthday but I didn’t hahaha sorry. So, a recap for what happened from my birthday until this day:
* I had the best birthday ever!! Got a birthday cake with “Happy birthday, Princess” on it. It was sooo beautiful and it came on top of my favorite cake. Can you guess? Hehehe. Prior to my birthday, we had an early birthday dinner. It was on the place I wrote in previous posts. Sampai detik ini masih agak kaget he got to plan everything for my birthday. Mungkin karena, I never got my birthday celebrated. Lebih tepatnya, setiap ulang tahun gak pernah ngerasain dikasih surprise sama pasangan. Makanya it felt really special. Oh pernah deh sekali with my ex. Tapi itu juga dia sebenernya lupa kalau aku ulang tahun di hari itu dan yang ingat adalah temannya. Trus temannya dia yang sekarang jadi teman dekatku itu beli kue. Temanku yang minta dia buat video call aku sambil kasih liat kuenya trus nyanyi happy birthday. Lah? Wkwk lucu banget sih kalau diingat lagi. Jauh kalau dibandingkan sama yang sekarang. So, best birthday, best birthday gift as well: him.
* We played that apa sih namanya pokoknya kartu yang isinya pertanyaan-pertanyaan intimate buat couple. In the middle of the game, he asked “Have you ever been in a relationship with healthy communication like this one we have?” in which I answered “I didn’t even get a chance to explain or express my feelings in my last relationship. Being gaslighted a lot, yes.”
There are a lot of intimate questions and I’m surprised how his answers matched my expectations and values. Even with sensitive questions. We have quite a lot in common.
* He made a surprise appearance at my cousin’s wedding. This one was shockinggggg hahaha soalnya ya gimana dong kan isinya keluarga besar. Ngeri banget ditanya ini itu dan bener dong Bu De, kakak sepupu pada ngasih label “Calonnya Tia” sampai one of my cousins bilang (dengan nada bercanda tentunya) “Wah ini kalau gak jadi awas ya.” TAKUT BANGET JUJUR 😫
I think that was also the very first time he saw me wearing full make up. Like FULL make up karena waktu itu aku didandanin sama MUA padahal tadinya mau dandan sendiri but my cousin insisted and she wanted me didandanin aja. Me without make up vs me with make up is veryyyy different I could tell you guys. He didn’t stop staring at me sambil senyum-senyum. I did full make up again later on the next ocassion we had. He also stared at me for a long time. When I struggled to remove my make up because the eyelash glue was really stubborn to remove, I told him “Tuh kan masih nempel nih lemnya.” You know what he responded with? “Mana coba liat? Cantik.” Weird. Yes, he’s weird that way. On the same day, he also said “Emang ya. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” — Yes, he’s trying to compliment me. Gemas. Tapi karena gak pernah, malah aneh kalau dia bilang aku cantik. Lagian ya I know I’m not pretty so it’s ok if I never heard him telling me anyway. But, he’s my weird man and I like him for that.
* He took care of me when I was sick. I never thought someone would do that to me except my parents. He ordered some porridge which I couldn’t finish because my throat was sore so badly. He bought vitamins and medicine. I can’t imagine if we’re living together and I feel a bit unwell. I know he’ll stick beside me and cuddle me to sleep.
* We had our Bakso date! Hahaha. It’s funny because I was just sending him a reel in the afternoon and later that night he asked me out for a dinner. After that we had coffee until midnight in which we had a lot to discuss.
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I don’t think we could go this far if it’s not because of clear communications and the constant efforts to make each other happy. I enjoy his company a lot more than anyone. It’s safe to say that he’s my favorite human.
I never knew it would be fun to do things together because I did a lot of things by myself quite a lot. Honestly, I don’t know that doing things together with your significant other would be that exciting. But, I don’t want anyone else to do everything with other than him. I only want him. Wow look at me finally want other people’s company.
It takes two to Tango. When it comes to relationship, it needs effort from both parties to make it work. If it’s only one, it won’t work. I can say that now my emotional wellbeing is depending on how he acts. I realize this is because I’m getting attached. While I normally could care less of anyone’s actions, I have to admit that a slightest change in his act or behavior will affect my mood.
I’m difficult yet he can handle me. Well, that reminds me. I haven’t gotten him anything for his achievement he told me. I know what I’m gonna get him.